This was an incredibly helpful article for me to read. I agree absolutely that it is possible to experience anger without becoming destructive to others or ourselves, and we wind up doing harm when we attempt to repress what we are truly feeling. I think others respond to legitimate anger with repressing or policing gestures because our anger makes them anxious by reminding them of their own anger.

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