Right. Which is why I listen to folks’ pain if they are capable of listening to mine. Like I said in my comment.
Emotional labor is emotional labor. It’s part of friendship, but it should be equal. If it’s not, there’s a problem.
Compassion in a general human way is fine, is healthy. But you’re talking about sympathy, about personal emotional involvement and connection. That does take energy. It’s ok to not want to do it.