I think what you said is so important. If you even have to question if it’s rape, something is wrong.
I was sexually assaulted a few years back and it took years to wrap my brain around the idea that’s what happened. I didn’t speak up when he first touched me and I wasn’t comfortable and didn’t feel safe. I didn’t tell him off when he tried to grope me, just pushed him away playfully. Eventually I stopped him and he yelled at me.
It is a strategy with these guys. It is the entire way they approach women. They know what they’re doing. They don’t care what we feel about it. They just think we’ll be okay with being violated.