I feel this point so painfully. I want to be attractive in a general way to all men so they won’t direct their misogyny my way, so I will be safe, but sometimes they use my attractiveness as evidence against me. Then it feels like being pretty is a weapon against me. But sometimes there’s a particular guy I want to think I’m pretty. But then I get afraid other guys will think I’m attractive too, and invade my space.
It scares me.