When I was a child, I thought it was the clothes.
When I was a child, I thought it was the clothes.
The girls in my class who were safe? They all seemed to have the same clothes. They wore glitter nail polish and jelly sandals, hoop earrings and the same short black skirt. …
Emotionally Abusive Behaviors that are Unacceptable in Adults
What do we talk about when we talk about toxicity? Is it the landlord who refuses to make minor repairs out of an unspoken grudge against single women, queer women, Jews? Is it the supervisor who finds fault to avoid taking responsibility? Is it the date who stands you up…
Antiracist Work Helps White People Too
My body is a map of who I really am. Black curving lines spiral down my arms and legs, some expressing words and some merely representing images of power. I choose self-expression that matches who I wish to become. …
Even When We’re Lying, We’re Still Telling a Truth Worth Hearing
I was celibate for ten years, and I wanted everyone to know it.
There are many ways to tell this story. I had sex with a man and I can’t remember it because maybe I was drugged. I was raped by someone my own age after a childhood of being…
Rape killed the best woman I’ve ever known, so no. I’m still not over it.
My friend killed herself, and for the longest time I thought it was my fault.
That night, she was drinking. D was always drinking, by then. She drank during the day. She drank all night long. She drank and sometimes she popped pills, but why would I worry about that…
How a culture’s venerated mothers keep male privilege alive.
A few weeks ago, a very nice Jewish lady asked me, “how are you ever going to find a nice Jewish boy?”
I didn’t have the heart to tell her the truth. I’m not sure I’m ever going to find a nice Jewish boy.
I’m not sure that nice Jewish…
Smallville was just an excuse to hate every bullied nerd and ugly girl you ever mocked in high school
An autistic boy. The school bullies’ favorite target. A fat girl.
What do these people have in common? They were all villains during Smallville’s first season.
Given a little power, each of these characters transformed into an Evil Supervillain who wanted nothing more than to wreak havoc on the lives…
Whiteness can make the difference in good medical care
When my cousin Gabby gets a migraine, the world stops for her.
She stays home from work. She calls her parents, frantic. She goes to the hospital. If her migraine is bad enough, her parents come running, crossing states and time zones to get to their little girl.
Within the…
If this were a serious question, I would answer it seriously.
There are countless pieces written by both women and men on just this topic.
Parenting is not about giving your child whatever they want
Parenting is the hardest job there is, and it scares me to death.
That is why I have chosen not to be a parent. I chose to develop boundaries, and try to figure out who I am in the world, before giving birth to a child who would depend on…
